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BALI WEDDING INFORMATION
How to get married in Bali ?
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 For
many people, Bali is well known as the island of Gods with
its distinctive beauty, culture and traditions. As the most
attractive tourist destination, Bali is also an appropriate
choice to arrange a wedding due to uniqueness of its culture,
Bali is simply the best as the wedding destination. People
definitely can get a miracle island of wedding on a best valued.
Most people wishing to marry in Indonesia
therefore find easier to engage an agent or their personal
travel agent to act on their behalf. The high number of tourist
visiting the island and their plan to held a wedding in Bali
is the reason of why most travel agencies able to organize
wedding. Some travel agencies may provide some information
needed in particular cases of wedding.
But, that is an agent following specialist wedding company
that they are toughly acquainted with the legal requirements
and are able to arrange all the wedding needed, it is wise
the arrangement trusting to the professional. Considering
this wedding organizer is found. |
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Bali Wedings Info - Bali Marriages Info |
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The pawiwahan
(marriage, weddings of a Hindu couple) is a very important
part of Balinese social life. The ritual generally takes place
in the home of the groom, a further confirmation of the typical
patriarchal inclinations of Balinese culture, and is per-
formed by a priest. The newlyweds to be, dressed in very colorful
and refined garments, worn only for the day of the wed- ding,
will withdraw in prayer in the family temple. This is followed
by the presentation of offerings in the pelinggih and by a
series of ritual gestures. A very typical moment in the ceremony
occurs when the bride offers the groom several different beverages:
a conventional way to reiterate that the woman. as a wife,
commits herself to obeying her husband and to lovingly care
for him for the rest of their lives. |
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 Many
Balinese marriages are still prearranged or negotiated, though
young men may also "kidnap" their wives, and mixed-caste
marriages are increasingly common. Marriage customs differ
from caste to caste and village to village, but all Balinese
marriage practices share fundamental similarities. There are
basically two ways to get married on Bali, 'ngerorod' and
'mapadik'.
Many Balinese marriages are still prearranged
or negotiated, though young men may also "kidnap"
their wives, and mixed-caste marriages are increasingly common.
Marriage customs differ from caste to caste and village to
village, but all Balinese marriage practices share fundamental
similarities. There are basically two ways to get married
on Bali, 'ngerorod' and 'mapadik'. |
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NGEROROD
This is marriage by elopement, in which the prearranged
honeymoon precedes the wedding ceremony. Since it's otherwise
quite expensive to marry on Bali, 'ngerorod' is becoming
more and more popular. It has particular appeal to the Balinese
sense of theater. Balinese love a spectacular kidnapping
in which friends of the suitor capture a woman in the fields,
on the road, or down by the river. Theatrics are paramount:
she is expected to bite and kick her abductors in mock self-defense.
These days it's more stylish and fashionable for the woman
to be whisked away in a hired sedan, and more often than
not she goes willingly. The couple then repairs to a friend's
house stocked with provisions, offerings, and the bride's
wardrobe. The woman's infuriated father sounds the alarm
demanding to know what has become of his daughter. A search
party is organized which eventually returns unsuccessful
and exhausted.
Meanwhile, the couple is consummating the marriage before
special offerings (sesayut tabuh rah) have the time to wilt.
These offerings alone make the marriage binding by customary
law. Emissaries of the groom visit the bride's father to
argue the advantages of the union. Begrudgingly, the girl's
father gives in, after a suitable bride price has been agreed
upon. The groom's father must finance and conduct the marriage
ceremony, welcoming the bride as a new daughter into the
family. The actual public wedding, within 42 days of the
staged kidnapping, is only an official confirmation of their
union. They are already married in the eyes of the gods.
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MEPADIK
This is marriage by consent, in which an upper-class couple
conducts a formal courtship. Since daughters were once regarded
as property useful for attaining a family's social and political
goals, high-caste families tried to wed a son to the daughter
of a friend or relative so a blood bond would unite the resources
of both families.
Under no circumstances may a woman "marry down,"
i.e., take a commoner. The preferred marriage is through a
parallel patri-cousin, the father's brother's daughter. It
has been noted that Triwangsa couples often get along so well
because they are all first cousins.
Traditionally, the man or his father journeys three times
to the bride's house with food and 'sirih'. When the bride's
family visits, the groom's father is obliged to give them
food, 'sirih' is chewed (an ancient, ritualistic means of
coming to agreement), and presents are exchanged. The groom
then regularly visits the home of his prospective bride, presenting
gifts and performing services for his future father-in-law.
The groom's family arranges and pays for the wedding; the
date set well in advance on a propitious day. Wedding guests
are often entertained by professional storytellers and musicians.
Enormously detailed rules govern dining and seating arrangements.
Sometimes the bride's family is not even invited.
 The
actual ceremony varies. It could be very simple and short,
presided over by a common temple 'pemangku', or it may be
elaborate, expensive, and go on all day. Both the bride and
groom dress in bright 'songket', with brocades of gold thread,
and the woman's hair is decorated with glittering gold flowers.
Usually the bride and groom offer food to one another, then
simulate such domestic duties such as washing, cooking rice,
and cutting bamboo. Prayers are intoned, and then the couple
eats together in public, feeding each other. This is an important
symbolic act, as in former times only married men and women
were allowed to eat food together in public. The priest then
performs a ritual purification and blesses the couple. Neither
rice nor flowers are thrown. Today there could very well be
a Western-style buffet reception held afterward where speeches
are offered by members of the two families.
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BALI WEDDINGS - BALI MARRIAGES LIFE |
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 After
the wedding, the new bride leaves her old ties behind and
formally becomes a member of the husband's kin group and caste,
serving the new family's gods. The couple resides in the house
of the husband's parents for the first few years; relations
with her own family may be severed.
The wife owns all her clothes, jewelry, household utensils,
pigs, and chickens, and often has her own income from the
sale of market goods. Inheritance is invariably passed along
the male line; the man owns the house, the rice fields, the
cattle, and his tools, and is in charge of handling the money.
Polygamy amongst the aristocracy was once widespread but
is now quite rare. At one time the wife of a prince could
hold varying levels of status in a 'puri', depending upon
her caste and whether she ranked as first, second, third,
or fourth wife. The prince usually did not even appear at
his wedding ceremony with a low-caste bride; she was ceremonially
married to his 'kris', or a tree.
A man may be awarded a divorce by the village authorities
if his wife is lazy, quarrelsome, adulterous, or sterile,
while a woman may divorce her husband by simply leaving his
home if he is cruel, under an occult power, or impotent |
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